Hey guys
I had to ask about something.
This new guy joined our team. Actually, my whole team is minus 3 people and plus this 1 guy and our manager. This one is a good manager.
So this guy mentioned his mom suffers from dementia and her struggles…
We talked about my dad a little too. I reserved the complete info since he is my colleague but i did tell him my dad’s mental health was seriously affected after we lost our mom.
His mom’s health also deteriorated after his father’s demise.
So far, it seems they haven’t gotten the right help yet. They are often confused. And honestly doesn’t sound like they got a doctor that could actually help her, nor any form of counseling for how they should be dealing with this whole situation.
So I came here to ask if you guys have any suggestions.
His mom keeps asking about her mother and husband, both have passed away long ago.
Every day this guy takes her on a long drive and when they are on the way back he tells her she has already met her mom and they are coming back now. Somebody in the family once answered her “your mom is alive and fine because she was asking about her a lot” so now that’s how they maintain it.
Idk how i contained myself hearing all of this, it’s heartbreaking.
One good thing. This guy and his brothers live with their mom along with their spouses and kids. So it’s one big family.
But I could feel it he doesn’t have an easy life and clearly has no professional or emotional support.
I am going to suggest online support groups tomorrow.
Any tips, ideas, suggestions, or anything you guys have to share for her and the family?
Online support groups sound like a good thing, if you can find some for him! I’m sorry he doesnt have it easy! Dementia is a cruel illness. Xx
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i did look into some groups and then i couldn’t recommend, not sure how to do it. gotta respect boundaries, he is a colleague.
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Sometimes music helps calm people. Maybe find out her favourite music? It is only a thought
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hmm i might bring it during a conversation. it’s hard to bring this subject on your own. if my colleague starts to talk about her mom then i will try to suggest. it makes sense.
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Mozart is very good x
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Mozart is perfect xx
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I wish I had some good advice. Sorry. Good luck.
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Its so complicated, even i had no clue.
thanks.
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I think suggesting online support group is a good idea. Over here I haven’t heard of anything much for patients of dementia. I hope you can help her.
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that’s the issue, idk how things are here with dementia, the only case i saw myself, the family would just keep lying to calm them. idk how right is that. its very complicated.
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Yes, I think you’re right. People don’t know how to deal with such patients.
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it’s just sad to even hear. i hope there was more awareness about mental health in Pakistan, it’s still such a taboo here people keep suffering and families don’t go for the right treatment.
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Yes, though things are better but still not ideal when mental illness is treated at par with physical illness.
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yea we are far from that. Also people in general still don’t take mental health seriously. they notice things when it’s already too late mostly.
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Very unfortunate, but that very true.
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I’d say this woman needs a full time nurse or aide with a medical background. I don’t believe in pacifying a loved one in such a touchy situation..
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honestly i was thinking on the same lines. but it’s hard to bring it…
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