I was talking to a woman who has been through unimaginable pain in life. She is very close to me.
She is been sick for some time and finally doctors diagnosed her condition as fibromyalgia with PTSD.
First thing everyone told her was “don’t stressing yourself” “go somewhere” ‘don’t be depressed’ as stress is major factor.
I prepared my own speech. i had to cover all areas since I have known her since forever I know her whole life.
I called her and i started with every person close to her and tried to calmly explain she shouldn’t be worried about anyone.
She listened and she said ‘trust me I havent even been thinking about anyone or whatever happened. But can I erase my past? Whatever happened to me is sitting in my subconscious it travels with me it lives with me and it doesn’t warn me what it’s going to do next momemnt”
I had no answer.
We have recently seen 2 extreme incidents of mental illness in family.
Relatives are voluntarily going to therapists and psychiatrist.
Mental illness is as visible as physical as any other illness when you see it happening to people around you.
And it does claim your life.
This is an alarming situation.
I feel scared numb and helpless.
What should we do then?
There is one thing that should have happened. I don’t know if it matters now.
When she was going through living hell people should have stood by her. They should have supported her.
They could save her then and today this probably wouldn’t be happening.
We let someone suffer. We have millions of excuses to justify our insensitivity.
Then we isolate them because their life was hell. Forgetting that we had some responsibility too.
Then when they give up on us we assume that they are fine.
We always assume they are doing fine. We dont want to hear otherwise.
We don’t realise what we are feeding their subconscious.
I am trying to think of a solution but I can’t.
We can’t erase anything.
But we sure can prevent it. We can speak up when it’s time.
We can stand by people when they are falling apart.
Sometimes it doesn’t even take anything to just show some support. Some validation.
I don’t know what I am going to do. And what can be done now.
It’s so frustrating.
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