1st stage:
Your pain is breaking news for everybody and you get all sorts of attention, sympathy, empathy, love and support,
2nd stage:
You reveal more about yourself and people worry a little more for you as they know life hasn’t been very kind to you lately. Now they are more concerned and want to help you.
3rd stage:
They are slowly getting attuned to hearing about your miseries. It’s becoming normal for them. Now for them you are one of those people who have problematic life by fate. The curve has reached maturity and it’s a straight horizontal line that won’t go any higher by any further addition to the existing information.
4th stage:
It’s getting annoying. They are tired of listening to your rants. Your words have lost intensity. You tears are just the drops of water running. You might hear things like “you are going paranoid…why do you think everything happens to you…a lot of people go through similar things…this is life get over it…stop self-pitying… maybe you are exaggerating..”
5th stage:
Your life has become a sad pathetic daily soap opera. There’s always a new episode laced with melodrama and tragedy lined up for viewers. They might start calling you “tragedy queen” and blaming you for your problems. Prepare yourself for “maybe it’s you who is wrong…you are sensitive…you lack patience…”
6th and final stage:
You are detached and discarded like a festering wound. They wish they never knew you and you are vanishing from their lives and memories. Soon you will be forgotten.
On the side note, a lot of people don’t even survive all the stages they run away somewhere in the first three stages. And you just have 1 or 2 loyal friends who won’t follow this pattern. They will stick around understand you and will care for you, no matter what, cherish them.
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There’s a lot of truth in this post. But that’s one of the great things about this platform. It’s very cathartic to write it out. 😊
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I had written it way back and i keep mentioning stages of sharing to my friends..like..’you jave just hit the 4th stage’.
Its sad and true. No matter how badly i insist on talking to people, reaching out and sharing. There’s this dark side to the whole concept.
Yes it is cathartic 🙂
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In times of beef is when true friends will reveal themselves, that’s for sure. 😊
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Absolutely! Thats how it works. 🙂
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Isn’t it though. 😕
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That obviously should’ve said “grief”. Not “beef”. As long as I live, I’ll never understand autocorrect. 😏
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aaahahahahahhaha
God! i am dying…ahahahahhaha
ahaha
see sometimes you dont even have to make an effort.
ahahah 😀
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It has only one goal: make people look stupid. And I don’t need any extra help with that. 😃😃
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Ahaha i am sorry ..but..i kinda agree a little bit 😆
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Hahaha! About which part? 😃
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Now this is the tricky part 😆
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Hahaha! I just assumed you were referring to the latter. 😃😃
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Bingo!! 😆
See you are a genius too 😎
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Hahaha! If only. I’d be living on my private island in Fiji if that were the case. 😃
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No for that you have to be filthy rich..nothing to do with being a genius.
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Well, if I were much of a genius I would be filthy rich. 😃
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You wouldn’t trust me. Brains and money aren’t directly proportional 😆
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Not always, no. Look no further than the Whitehouse for proof of that. 🙂
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Ahahah.. i actually had politicians in mind.
But seriously if i look at my class mates the brainy ones are struggling and the doofus ones are rich.
Its confusing.
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This is true. Life just isn’t fair, or explainable, sometimes. 😃
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most of the times..
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Indeed. 😃
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🙂
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See Weltschmerz, are you tilting towards anti-natalism.
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Anti-natalism?? If i go by the definition i have been tilting or completely falling on it since the day i was diagnosed, at least for me.
But i haven’t completely lost my mind neither my believe in those 1 to 2 people.
I dont post on a whim i have thought about it several times. it is the truth. Alongwith whats written in side note.
I dont push away people who try to stand by me.
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Since pessimism doesn’t bother you. Here is my take. So you’re in a paradox. You seemed to be conveyed with the idea of fate and negative value of birth. But at the same time you want things to improve. And that means you believe you have some sort of control.
Nice subtle hint with the last line. Touché.
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And what do you believe?
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Nothing, absolutely nothing. I have dropped everything. Nihilism is a close word but not an accurate one.
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And you think you are right??
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There is nothing right or wrong about it. Being right or wrong means comparison, rather than deduction. I am not doing the former.
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Hmm.. i just know what to say. People like you stab a little bit of hope in me.
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See it does effect you. All pessimists are slayers. There should be a warning sign around our neck saying Stay Away. So long, and as I said before Keep your distance from the likes of us.
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Why the heck am a laughing right now?
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Maybe together we have totally lost it.
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Ahhaha i have no idea. You are so hopeless its getting funny now
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I was apathetic, but not hopeless. You must have some hope beforehand, to be the latter.
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Ahaha God. What do i say now. What happened to old sight11??
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I am always been like this. Now I’m just more cold, to borrow my friend word.
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you werent like this. read your old comments.
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As I said in the post, the curse of being misconstrued.
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cmon. no check it yourself. check old conversation there is a lot of difference
try going to doctor once, i have a feeling you will feel better.
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So all i have to do to stop your replies is telling/requesting/begging you to go to the doctor 🙂
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You are in my head, lots of echoes in there.
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🙂 i hope wellyfish isn’t wobbling too much in your head.
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No you are fine and your writing is truthful. I hope you are in a good place today. 🙂
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A little better. Just need scheduling and all. 🙂
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Is there a stage for people that have no friends at all and don’t want any.
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i don’t think so. its sounds unreal, unpractical. we do need a break at times but we still want those 1, 2 friends with us.
do you know any such stage??
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Hermitville and that is where I live.
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that’s weird. having a good friend is a necessity, or that’s what i think. why wouldn’t you want any friends?
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I never had any children and I don’t get along with some of my family members, so I have learned to be independent. Perhaps I should have said I like a reclusive lifestyle as hermit does sound a bit odd. I get along with people, but I enjoy writing more than I would getting into a conversation. I had many friends in my life time, but I don’t keep in touch with any of them and I do not feel the need to make new friends.
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Being independent is compulsory. I dont think in these times children are compulsory.
I understand there are people who enjoy writing more than talking. Social anxiety may be one of the reason (i have that).
Well then this is personal choice maybe. That you don’t want friends anymore.
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I have some friends on WordPress, but I have never met them and I have no plans to meet them. It is not like I am anti-social and don’t want any friends, I just don’t have the time to meet new ones. I work and I write, which is a simple enough life that works for me.
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understandable. work and writing is demanding. makes sense.
i have plenty a lot of friends here. it’s kind of a 2nd home. really nice people.
i think we all come up with our own formula on our social life too, the one that suits us best 🙂
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You are so right about the loyal ones and they are not many of those. Stage one buy my own island and live like a hermit to avoid all the other mess. I may be getting old and cynical
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c’mon tachi boss. you are young and lively and full of ambitions i love you for all of that 🙂
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You made my morning 😃 some days I get tired forgive me . You are a wonderful friend . I had a little setback . It had me a little off . Today I smile and push forward
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that’s my tachi boss!!
i know you can kick the setbacks in the ass! 🙂
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I love this! very true. very very true. x
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i know. bitter but true.
thanks 🙂
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They say….the world is a stage….and we are the drama artists….so…perhaps its all part of it….stages of a concavity in life…..
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everything is traveling in stages…
a beginning then fading to an end. each and everything.
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Oh…you seem to have earned a lot insight…..the way of life……
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yup.. seen a lot already 🙂
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The life experiences live….make the heart prematurely decisive and bold enough to face the world….head on….
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couldnt agree more 🙂
thats how it is
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From #3 straightforward I disagree with you. By you writing and expressing yourself, that shows strength. By us (people reading) is not annoying to us. If someone finds it to be, they will simply avoid, but I don’t think there are many people that would do that.
Everyone is fighting their own personal battle… We are here to encourage one another. And, again…You are stronger than you think.
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