Goodbye, my almost lover
Goodbye, my hopeless dream
I’m trying not to think about you
Can’t you just let me be?
So long, my luckless romance
My back is turned on you
I should’ve known you’d bring me heartache
Almost lovers always do…
Ok! I need to shut up
As title suggests I deactivated facebook today…
I was thinking about a title for this post and the James Blunt song “goodbye my lover” rose like a mummy from the dust and debris of memories.
And my mind mechanically drifted to “goodbye my almost lover”. Since I love! love! love! this song so extremely it just stuck on my tongue like an stubborn octopus.
Well..
To the post..
I never felt like posting a lot about myself and personal life. But it was always a necessary as I have geographically dispersed family and a lot of friends. So it was convenient way of bringing everybody in one zone.
It was a necessity that has been helpful often times but there was a dark side to it that can be summed up as “it’s a fake fake fake fake world”.
People either show they are living in utopia or the universe is conspiring against them.
It blurs the boundaries of idealism and realism.
Silent Amblers like me unintestinally start feeling deceived and confused.
And avoid checking it every now and then is not possible.
So I thought why not take a break.
Let’s see what difference does this make…
Totally agree on your decision to deactivate Facebook. It is so harming in many ways that can’t be described. It’s all in the way people approach social media and use it.
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Good to know i am not alone in this. Its wierd. I can’t explain. A point comes when you cant deal with this levels of hypocrisy anymore
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I stopped using facebook over a year ago now and I feel so much better for it. It sounds stupid but you feel like you can live your life the way you want to without worrying about who will see what you’re doing and trying to impress anyone but also by not living your life by measuring it against any one else’s standards. I found it really refreshing!
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You summed up it all so well. Thats exactly what i was missing. You end measuring your life unintensionally.
Thanks for sharing your perpective and experience 🙂
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Never activated it, so never will deactivate it.. Why take the burden? I say, good riddance..
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Wow. You belong to a very rare breed. Even my mom has her fb account. I thought alot about deactivating but we literally live in 4 5 counties. And i had so many friends it looked like an only option.
But right now. At this point i dont feel its important. Maybe i just dont want to be surrounded by irrelevant people anymore
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Yeah, now not having an Fb account mean, very hard to get jobs.. Seriously.. And 45 countries.. Really.. Don’t tell me you belong to a royal family..
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No 4, 5!!! Cmon!
What’s fb ac got to do with jobs??
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Don’t you know? Basically if you don’t have an online presence, you don’t exist.. Don’t tell me.. There are articles in NY times, Economist and documentaries on this new way of recruitment..
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Umm actually it depends. I know what papers say.
But in real life this is not set in stone. My ex employer never even asked and i never added my colleagues. Haven’t been working lately.
I hope it stays the same. I m not good at maintaining online presence.
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I am being bullied into building one. Aw seriously.. Why? Cause we don’t know you.. It’s creepy.. And my online presence is this ‘Anonymous’ Blog.. Go figure.. Either have an online presence with only 3 friends or don’t have a presence of prospect in the dream job that you want to land.. It’s getting worse..
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Umm this sounds creepy.. then i dont have a chance of getting a decent job anymore.
Are you sure your blog is anonymous??
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Why, do you say that? I don’t post pics. Never use my name, so yeah Anonymous.. You are too..
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R u really sure???
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Stop creeping me out. Why do you say that?
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Go figure…
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Hey, give me a hint. Hmm.. Well comment from dashboard.
Is that where you are pointing at..
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Your email address shows
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I know but I trust who to share it with. And beside its a moniker. And I remain ‘Anonymous’.. Thank you.. And those outside of WordPress will not see my email. So all good.. Still anonymous… It’s not like a professional email id..
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Can u control who can you share it with???
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Yep, by going only to websites that are written by good and real people and commenting on them. Why would anyone want to screw me up?
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Hmm nobody would want to screw you up. I thought may be there were some privacy settings
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Nah, the only privacy setting setting in WordPress are to change the site under my site from Public to Private. So you send invites to people.. Really.. I opened another account before that one (just 3 days before) and that private one email got hacked.. And spammed.. Screw it, I thought and open a public site..
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Ok.. wierd!
Well. Its way better here than fb and all
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Yep, reminds me of what my teacher said If you own a Ferrari, people will know you are rich.. So own a Beetle.. It’s the same with private blogs.. Too much attention..
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I feel so dumb right now. I cant wrap my head around the difference between private and public blog. I m sure i read it when i made mine.
Anyway. All is well untill somebody i know can’t find me here. And that hasn’t happened yet. I keep an eye on countries i m getting views from. The 2 countries i swing between hardly appear. So all’s well!
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Haha.. And what will happen when that happens? (if that happens)..
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Then i m running and hiding fast!
Well.We have a backup plan. Sam is in this with me. We have that take care of already!
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Hey, is something wrong in (or with yours) expressing your opinion?
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You think mine are normally acceptable?? Maybe they are somewhere.
It took me effort to carve this nook. I just dont want anybody to ruin this. This is one place i express myself freely.
I dont know i came here for peace if i could find it elsewhere i would have made this place public. I dont feel people appriciate the way i feel about things.
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True that, I think yours are normal.(Why would anyone think otherwise, I can’t understand.) Anyway, feel free.. And stay true.. And don’t get stoned with cannabis.. Stoner..
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My dad calls me stoner (actually charsi) nothing to do with drugs.
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I’m pulling your leg.. I had to Google that word and it shows much worse narcotics.. Hmm.. Your dad should just say absent minded or an ass like my dad calls me..
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Ahaha google shows horrible results. Its just an addict my first blog was about this. Let me share the link.
Your dad calls you an ass.. 😆
He should take classes from my dad. He never calls anyone with original name 😀
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Alright stop pulling my pants down. And yes he calls me that. Will check the link. Take care, Au revoir..
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ahaha
https://stoneronarollercoaster.wordpress.com/2016/12/27/charsi-a-stoner-in-urdu/
take care.. 🙂
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Hey, there is no link.. It disappeared..
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i just sent
https://stoneronarollercoaster.wordpress.com/2016/12/27/charsi-a-stoner-in-urdu/
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Ok, got it.. Sorry for the trouble.. Take care.
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That’s one of the perks of not being a millennial, no Facebook to worry about!
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You must have a peaceful life..i envy people of your generation.
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Be very careful what you wish for, I may not have Facebook to worry about but there are plenty of other things, we all search for that peaceful life but damn it’s hard to find! But never quit searching!
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Thats right. Never quit searching for peace. And the process is mostly based on trial and error. If one thing doesnt work move to next.
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Staying or Quitting FB is your call to make. But the entire piece was written very well indeed. Liked it!! 🙂 Incidentally I don’t have FB on my mobile, only on my laptop and I check it only at a specific time. So no compulsions, no distractions!! 🙂
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Thanks for appriciating.
You have a good strategy..i call it self control. You actually have fitted a regulator in your fb. Its on your disposal. 🙂
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Awesome….i whole heartedly agree.
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Thanks for stopping by and agreeing🙂
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Congrats! I quit facebook over 3 years ago and, man do I get shit done now! I never spent huge chunks of time on there but it ate away my time in small increments. I love being off it and will never go back!
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Same here. It made me restless and there was always that doubt people are watching me. Its wierd. I already feel liberated
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More time to write and make art!
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In my case…and read 🙂
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Dude, you got problem with people, not FB. That’s why I have double profile. One for fakes, one for true friends and quality socialization. I know people for having multiple profiles, or just make a profile, forget the password, create another and so on. 😀 Anyway, your decisions, I can’t make you do something you won’t. Take care. 😀
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you are actually right. i had 250+ friends and most of them were my relative (who i added just for the family). so its a good idea to come up with a new profile next time.
thanks for the advice and sharing your perspective. 🙂
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I just heard on a PBS program this evening that teens taking a weeks break from FB had improved sleep and better moods. So there you go!
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Well, why I am still on Facebook:
1. I have learned so much about my running following right blogs.
2. My eating habits has improved because of ancient way of eating ( not ancient but right way of eating).
3. Globally connected to friends and family.
PS: I have all notifications off from all media. When I feel or I have a time to go and see what’s in for me.
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Switching off notifications is a good idea. I am not good at handling it maybe.
I m glad it worked for you. I havent deactivated my fb messenger as its still helpful. So i am connected in a way and avoided the chaos.
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“It just stuck on my tongue like a stubborn octopus. ” What an analogy! It gives me a visual that just both creepy but was brilliant in how you get stuck on something you can’t get out of your brain. A song, a title, a phrase, an image… like this one. This is a great post. How many times have we all tried to walk away from social media and failed.
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Thank you so much for stopping by and appriciating. Songs still to you like that.
Its been 1 day without facebook and i already feel better..kinda peaceful.
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I’m glad. I stayed away from it for awhile as so many were hooked on the activism of anti- Donald Trump and anti establishment. Many were getting angry, upset depressed over LIFE -?…and having arguments…. even my family! I just couldn’t handle it. So I walked away for a while. Now I’m back and ignore the activists and the posts that say “woe is life because of the bad” and stay above the fray for the most part and focus on the humor and the friendships. My family is scattered across the world do this is how we remain connected. That’s what I focus on. Bottom line? You do what keeps you in the present moment and at peace. Best wishes my fellow chai tea lover.
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same here. very scattered family, you just leave a status and everybody knows you are in town and avoid the hassle of calling individually… in that case it has been working for me so i didnt dissolve my fb messenger. but fb account was getting on my nerve and bothering my brain circuits.
deleting it is keeping me at peace right now. last see how long this lasts.
thank you so much 🙂
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I tried that once and then my games stopped working properly. It’s a conspiracy I tell ya.
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games??
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Yes, some mobile games out there use Facebook to authenticate users. I just happened to be addicted to one.
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oh.. got it.
alot of apps when ask to login they do give an option to log in from facebook. that must have done it.
luckily mine wasn’t connected to anything that would bother me when stopped.
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How are you coping a few days on now? I removed mine a few days ago and am feeling better than ever!
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I am loving my life without it. Its peaceful away from all the drama.
Thanks for stopping by 🙂
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